You’re The Average of What You Do Most Often

We are disproportionately the average of what we think, believe, and do most often.

In other words, your frequency is the cumulative result of what you do most frequently.

Someone with bad road rage will be uptight and eventually have high blood pressure.

Over time, they become that kind of person.

By the same token, a devotion to a daily fitness routine will create a health-conscious person who keeps in shape for a long time.

They become healthy.

I think it can be tempting to strive for perfection, too, which can lead to self-induced pressure and shame if the streak is broken.

But the point I want to make is this: It’s okay to allow for variations off of your mean.

Stop beating yourself up over the micro minutia.

It’s okay to have an angry outburst.

It’s okay to have a drink every now and again.

It’s okay to “dip down” your frequency for a day here and there.

You’ll be fine to eat a fatty McDonald’s meal once a month if the other 29 days are filled with an organic diet, workouts, and sauna sessions.

Won’t make a lick of difference in the long term.

And it won’t affect your average.

Too many people fear the fluctuations.

Don’t. Allow for them. You’re human.

In fact, periodic releases into relative unconsciousness can be rewarding for the hard work put in the other 99% of the time.

By the same token, too many weak-minded people also allow one “cheat” to unleash a cascading domino effect of uncontrolled bad decisions.

But you can always choose to retrain your brain, body, and behavior.

You just have to want that change worse than anything else… and cultivate the strength to allow for variations without getting sucked into the abyss.

If you don’t have the presence of mind and inner resolve to remain steadfastly committed to your long-term betterment, don’t dip down.

Otherwise, it’s okay to play.

We are disproportionately the average of what we do most often, over the long haul.

People overestimate what they can do in a year, but vastly underestimate what they can do in ten.

Make the next decade one of predominantly positive habits, and let the miracle of compounding do it’s work.

And give yourself grace day-to-day.

Don’t forget to enjoy the little pleasures of life along the journey.

In the end, they’re what make it worth living.

Yours in service,


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